Immigration taking a toll on the family

When my family came to the United States, they were advised by their bishop to go as what they were, a family. Although it was hard for my parents to think of taking their 3 small daughters and venturing out to another country, they did it. Little did they know that moving together would be the best decision they made. 

My family consists of mom, dad, 4 girls and 1 boy, the youngest. The members of my family played the typical roles, mom cooked and cleaned, dad worked, older sister felt like the boss when mom wasn't around, and so on.

Now what would have happened if only my dad came to the States then my family joined him? First off, my brother nor I would have been born. But my mother would now be a single mom. Having to take on both mom AND dad roles. Working long hours to make ends meet. Who would've been mom? Next in line. My older sister. As time goes on, my family would have been so distant from my father, that his authoritative figure would've been lost. This family, now changed and will struggle to succeed. 

This, is what immigration is doing to families. I know, understand, and am fully thankful for the reasons so many parents decide to change their lives and move to a different country. I truly admire their courage and determination. 

My only suggestion is that they would move as a family. The reason they are changing their lives, they should conserve. Like my family, we are no way close to being perfect, but moving together, as a family, is what helped my parents succeed. Keeping our family role in contact, has helped build our relationships and has kept us so much closer.

Conflict, how it can help us

Conflict: "Noun: A struggle for power." - Merriam Webster Dictionary.

Think of that for a second, how could a struggle for power be a good thing in a relationship? Let's take a quick look at how a relationship usually goes. You like someone, you feel vulnerable as you admit these feelings, then grow closer as the feelings become mutual. Then, you don't see eye to eye on something. So what happens now that here is a struggle for power? 

A. You both leave it alone and hope that subject doesn't come back up

B. Someone just agrees and hopes it goes away

C. You both decide to talk it out. 

It seems as though the answer is obvious. If you care for someone, you talk it out. You understand each others point of view and come to a mutual agreement. 

How does this help your relationship?

Well, for starters, you know if that person is a hot head! And how to avoid that! 

But more importantly, you learn to grow, TOGETHER. You learn more about the person you are in a relationship and, hopefully, your feelings grow stronger. Why? Well, who doesn't like their opinion to be heard and mean something to someone else. Especially to the one person that is important to you. 

Conflict, my friends, is a blessing in disguise. This small struggle for power or need to have things our way, can help us determine if we are really committed to our partner. If we are willing to talk things out to make one another happy.