Here are a couple of steps.
1. Build an emotional connection with someone that is not your spouse. Make inside jokes, talk to them about your problems, be vulnerable around them, bond.
2. Encourage visual thoughts of others that aren't your spouse. That could be posters, people you meet on the street, things of that nature.
3. After you've encouraged these thoughts of others, compare your spouse to them. Pros and cons of each. Maybe think you settled when you got married.
4. Forget the reasons you fell in love with your spouse. Forget the wonderful memories and laugh filled nights that made you realize you couldn't live without this person.
5. Forget the selfless service they give you everyday. The things they have given up in order to make the relationship work.
6. Forget the late night talks where you were completely vulnerable and they were there to help, comfort, understand, and love you through the rough times.
7. Forget the struggles you both have overcome. Separately and as a couple.
8. Forget the rewarding feeling that overcame you when you accomplished something so big with your spouses help. Oh! and forget that rewarding high five and kiss they gave you because they were so proud of you.
9. Forget the small details. Forget to give something small and sweet. Forget the ones you have received. Replace them with materialistic and replaceable memories.
10. Forget the promise you made to them and to God to love them forever.
11. Repeat
As you read these 11 steps, I hope you were thinking, "I could never do this to my spouse!" or "How could I just forget about everything we've been through?". That's the reaction most people have. But the sad part is that these things don't just happen over night. They take time. And if we are not careful it can happen before we know it.
So, how do we prevent this?
Remember 3 things.
1. You made a promise
2. Communication is key
3. You married your best friend.
If you wanna read more about the 3 things listed, visit my previous post intitled, "Mawage"
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